This also explains so much for me – why I’m so uncomfortable in so many conversation circles. I find that so many conversations are just arguments, each person trying to prove his/her point and in doing so, putting the other opinions down. I totally lose self-connection, because my jackals start howling about how ridiculous these conversations are. And so of course I can’t connect to the beautiful feelings and needs people are expressing behind their opinions either.
But hey… Last night I did it! As I was snuggling with Kiki, I heard something about the relationship between cats and humans and that it was like prostitution – the cat only receiving (or giving) love and snuggles in return for food… Oh boy, my normal reaction would like be like “Oh my gosh, you’re so ridiculous…” But instead, I tried to connect, “So is that you’d like to see balance and respect in our relationships…?” (I can’t even remember what it was that I said, but anyway the words are of no consequence – it was about the intention to connect and understand his inner world a bit better, without judging it from my perspective… COOL!